Have you ever heard the old saying, "You Are What You Eat?", well, I'd like to add one to that, "You Live What You Think". One of the most frustrating situations for women of any age is not being able to get pregnant. Here you have this body that you have relied on for your entire life, and it's not pulling through for you. You feel like you are doing the right things, staying in shape, eating right, paying attention to your "fertility signals" but nothing. It may surprise you that you have more control than you've been led to believe. You are not a victim, you have the ability to take charge of the situation.
Maybe you're missing a critical component. Your mind has to be on board too. If you've been trying to conceive for a while, you may be saying to yourself, "I can't get pregnant, maybe I'm infertile". That's the wrong message because even though you want to get pregnant more than anything, your mind hears: "Can't get pregnant" and "infertile". It's a small shift, but what you need to be thinking about is getting pregnant and having a baby. Although the pain, frustration and downright anger associated with long-term failure is hard to get through, you need to leave that behind and focus on a positive outcome. How do you do this? Visualization and Meditation helps to retrain your mind.
Visualization is picturing in your mind what you want: a healthy happy baby. Rather than focusing on every mindboggling detail of the fertilization and pregnancy process, what you need to do is focus on the happy ending and leave the details to work themselves out. If you have ever found yourself daydreaming, then you know how to visualize. It's really quite simple, but we forget how to let go and think about the good stuff as we get older and burdened by life in general. So how do you visualize? If you choose, you can start by picturing in your mind a baby moving through your fallopian tubes and landing softly in your uterus.
This baby will attach firmly and will feel warm and safe where it will grow for the next 9 months. If that seems to microscopic or too difficult, you can just visualize yourself playing with your baby. Imagine the love and the joy you feel as your relish every moment with this miracle of life. Imagine all of the day to day things you will do with your baby. How will you dress them? How will you feed them? See yourself bathing them, putting them to bed and taking them out for a stroll. Talk to your future child. Invite them to come and live their life with you.
Meditation, on the other hand is when you think of nothing. Visualization launches your intentions, but meditation helps you to connect with the all powerful and all knowing force in the universe where all things are possible. Visualization can be done any time or anywhere, but meditation requires a quiet space where you will not be interrupted. Not only will meditation help you to attract those intentions you launched with visualization, but it will also provide relief from the day to day stress which may be keeping your body from getting pregnant in the first place.
Most of us spend our days trying to multitask and our minds are trying to juggle three or four things at once. Honestly, when was the last time you actually tried to think of nothing? It's actually a little challenging, but with practice, it is possible. When you meditate, you become an open vessel. You are present in the moment. This allows you to unite with the greater good. You will be surprised how much easier you will move through life when you make this connection with your higher self which is connected to all creation.
The first step is to make a conscious decision to leave your negative thoughts of frustration and anger behind. Learn to dream again. Take an inventory of the positive aspects of your life. This is how you will attract what you want for your future.